On the other hand, such intuitiveness and sensitivity can also cause significant difficulties for people with this personality type – they may be too altruistic and empathic, getting too involved in other people’s problems, and then finding it difficult to detach and stop worrying. In extreme cases, this can even affect the ENFJs’ perception of themselves.’
Oh my. This is very true! I sometimes wish I didn’t notice the minute interactions of others, and the way in which I sense body language and tone. I think this can affect me a lot when I go out and interact in my home of residence… I get affected a lot by people’s responses to me and then I think I have to own them too!
‘One ENFJ colleague always welcomes me into his office regardless of his own circumstances. If another person comes to the door, he allows them to interrupt our conversation with their need. While discussing that need, the phone rings and he stops to answer it. Others drop in with a ‘quick question.’ I finally get up, go to my office and use the call waiting feature on the telephone. When he hangs up, I have his undivided attention!’
This is me to a tee! I constantly offer help and want to be there for others, but find myself dropping things or what is happening at the time to focus on what has cropped up or gains my attention… This is not intentional and I really want to try and improve this about myself.
- Altruistic. ENFJs are warm and selfless, always willing to help other people. They are idealists, motivated by the idea of doing something good for the world.
- Skilled imitators. ENFJs find it very easy to notice what drives, motivates and worries other people, and are instinctively able to adjust their own manners and arguments accordingly.
- Tolerant. People with this personality type tend to be open-minded and accepting, willing to consider competing ideas as long as they do not contradict their inner principles. ENFJs can easily get along with most other types.
- Very idealistic. People with this personality type can often be too idealistic or even naïve, believing that everyone is good natured and cares about principles that are important to the ENFJ.
- Vulnerable to criticism. ENFJ personalities have a strong inner core of principles and values, and they can get very hurt if someone criticizes them. ENFJs may also have difficulties reacting calmly to general criticism and negativity.
- May find it difficult to make tough decisions. Due to their altruism and sensitivity, ENFJs are likely to struggle with decisions involving hard choices – they may waver between different options, unable to stop thinking about all the possible consequences.
- Highly fluctuating self-esteem. ENFJs’ self-esteem depends on whether they are able to live up to their ideals and fulfill their goals, while at the same time making sure that everyone around them is happy. If the ENFJ’s ideas are being constantly criticized or they are unable to help people close to them, their self-confidence is likely to plummet.
How fascinating?! Blogging about this at this time in my life – married, mama, job that challenges and excites me, being continually stretched, living overseas etc, makes me reflect on how ‘pure’ my personality is right now. I have changed a lot since I was a teenager going into university years… Is my personality now a product of my job title, role as a wife/mum? Has my personality changed in relation to my Hubby’s strengths/weaknesses?
Blogtember prompt: Take this short personality test and respond to your results.
Why don’t you try it out and share in the comments below what you got? I would be really interested to hear what you think!