Hubby and I are reading a book at the moment, ‘Love and War’ by John and Stasi Eldredge. It is an eye-opening read and is giving us such an insight into our marriage. The book is very open and honest. John and Stasi’s perspective is such an epiphany for why marriage can sometimes be a challenge.
John writes, “Stasi and I are at the time in life where we are now attending the weddings of our friends’ children. A new generation is taking their vows. We sit there and smile, we are genuinely happy for them… We also know that these newly married couples have no idea what they are getting themselves into. That is part of the smile. Now, we’re not sadists. The years have simply reconciled us to the fact that we are all here for our transformation. And we understand that there is no place on earth quite like marriage for the kind of transformation God is after.”
We are learning to transform and to be transformed. Wow, such a revelation for me.
It doesn’t always have to be that personal – we can take this position in our labour. God will use our marriage to smooth us, just as rocks are smoothed under a fast-flowing stream.
This is our gift to each other. Each of us in marriage (or those who maybe are preparing for the future) can choose to revel in our transformation, rather than strain with the ‘change me, change you’ attitude we can so often hide behind. Sharing is caring.
I hope this encourages you in some way and check out the book. It’s that good.